How important training is to say "no"

The "no" training should be one of the indispensable elements of sex education. According to researchers from the University of Colombia this deceptively simple exercise significantly reduces the chance of being a victim of sexual harassment.

Sexuality education is a topic that still makes mixed feelings in many people. Well, how can it be so, a word that is uncomfortably spoken out loud is combined with a respectable and respected word of education, and then we want to mix it with minors? Fuj yuck. Instead, we have education for living in a family. The name of the topic can be quite vague, but it does not use the ugly word for "s". No one has to blush shamefully, look away, do not learn to speak out loud about sex. Unfortunately, until he learns to speak, he will not be able to shout at all, which is dangerous. Because it may happen that he will have to shout " no" .

The training of saying " no" is necessary, because half a life we ​​teach kids that they have no right to refuse an adult, and then we expect them to do it at a crucial moment.

Listen to the elders, listen to the teachers, do not be naughty, do not waste, do not fuss, do not talk, take and thank, do not be ungrateful.

The science of wise recitation is important in every aspect of life, but in this particular, it is crucial. And neglected. How often did you accidentally deal with the children or parents about the defense against sexual harassment? Somehow it does not impose on the occasion of Sunday lunch or shopping together. Exactly. Instead, most of the children from the young have put in their heads that you have to be polite and listen to the elders regardless of the context. Saying "no" is perceived as bad behavior, exterminated and punished.

Training to say "no".

Research conducted by Columbia University shows how important is the importance of learning to say "no". Students who passed the training in "no" in the sex education before the age of 18 were less exposed to sexual harassment during their studies. Students whose sexual education did not include such training and based on the call for sexual abstinence were as exposed to sexual abuse as those who did not undergo sexual education at all.

No lesson or no " no" training, does not guarantee that someone will not be a victim of harassment, but can give him a defense tool. And that's something. The " no" training is a reminder that the decision about sex belongs to both sides. Both sides are equally important and there is no room for hierarchical service. Sounds of course? I would like it to be like that.

Meanwhile, in Poland - Radio Maryja , one of the titles of the sex program sanctions the objectification of women.

Research conducted at Columbia University indicates that decent sex education has a positive impact on the youth entering into adulthood, but it also translates into the quality of life (and life) of an adult. At present, one can get the impression that everyone in Poland has an idea of ​​how to educate about sexuality. Unfortunately, not every idea is good. For a few years now publishes what is more idiotic (sorry, but I think that you need a word here) the word from the manual approved by the Ministry of " Wandering towards adulthood" . Among them there are such fantastic classics as the one about the soil and the sower.

The girl should be aware that more than a boy pays for the wrong choice, because there is no equality in nature. He is the giver of life the "sower", while his body is the "soil" in which new life grew. The attitude of boys who become fathers varies.

I do not know whether to laugh or cry, because it is a little funny from the perspective of an adult who read such nonsense, but it is also very scary if he thinks that they represent the views of the author of the textbook. Unfortunately, she is not alone in them. December 11 this year Radio Maryja will broadcast the program " How to be a good wife in the bedroom" conducted as part of a retreat for spouses. Such objectification of one side is years of light from the training of saying "no", where both sides are seen as real partners who do not have equal rights to each other and have no obligation until they decide to consciously take them on themselves.

Sex education is very much needed for us, as evidenced by the reception of "sexedpl" - the book by Anja Rubik.

Sex education everyone wants to teach us recently. Anja Rubik published a book called #sexedpl , which is disappearing from the shelves of the bookstore at an alarming rate, suggesting that maybe the textbook chosen by the government does not necessarily answer all the young people's questions. For years, the Ponton foundation has been operating in Poland, which conducts educational campaigns in schools and examines the level of knowledge about teen sex, in schools there are lessons of education for living in a family. This struggle for a government of organs and souls is important. Few other subjects of education apply to absolutely everyone and will affect them throughout their lives. Sexuality is an indispensable element of human life, and the risks associated with it. More and more and more often we talk about sexual harassment, so kids learn to say "no" and "yes", help them determine which word they should choose, but decide to give it to them.

How important training is to say "no"